I have the privilege of coaching a number of highly successful people to support them
in being at their best. Without exception the only thing that stands in the way of them achieving even more success is what I will refer to as ‘blockers’. These blockers are interpersonal behaviours that interfer with their performance. Blockers effectively derail their success.
Take for example a client I worked with a few years ago who was a business leader. He had achieved phenomenal growth in his business unit. He was known as an achiever; someone who could be relied upon to deliver and make things happen.
All sounds good doesn’t it? There is one small problem though. He had a blocker that got in the way of him achieving his full potential. The impact for this particular client was that his CEO decided he couldn’t deal with his ‘derailing behaviour’ any longer and wanted him out (despite delivering outstanding business results).
Luckily for my client his CEO agreed, through the use of coaching, to a recovery plan to eliminate his blockers.
Blockers are the interference that stand between you performing to your potential.
The Common Culprits
These blockers are based on interpersonal behaviours. Often they are outside of our awareness. However to those we live and work with, these everyday annoyances can become intolerable. I would like to introduce you to a handful of these derailers – so please ‘Meet the Blockers’*:
Smartest person in the room syndrome; having to be right all of the time and married to your own ideas. Having to show people how smart you are.
Winning too much; the need to win at all costs and in all situations, regardless of the repercussions.
Adding too much value; the overwhelming desire to contribute and add our two pennies worth.
Passing judgement; the need to rate others and impose our standards and beliefs onto them.
Lack of impulse control; emotionally reactive and volatile, following emotional urges to an unhelpful extreme.
Perfectionism; setting unrealistic goals for self and others, constantly focussing on what is not yet perfect about a situation.
Making destructive comments; needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we may think make us sound witty.
Approval dependence; needing too much approval before making decisions and taking action .
There are more members of the Blocker family but these are just some of the common culprits that I find in my work with clients. Admittedly seeing them all together in one place can seem a little worrying. Who would want to live or work with a person who exhibited all these behaviours?! And yet we do everyday. The good news is that often people only have one or two blockers that derail their performance.
* Adapted from Reldan Nadler’s ‘Derailer Detector’ & Marshall Goldsmith’s ‘What Got you Here Won’t Get You There’
Overcoming Your Blockers
If you can identify with any of the blockers, don’t worry you’re not alone.
Coaching can be a great way to help to identify and overcome blockers before they derail your career and success. If you would like to make sure that your blockers don’t get in the way of your success get in contact.